Empty Nest?

Empty Nest?

We look forward to our children going away to school or moving out on their own. An enormous amount of time and effort is focused on the process.

We feel proud, relieved, excited… and acutely aware that their energy no longer fills our home. People refer to us as “Empty Nesters.”

How strange! Like any life transition, it feels uncomfortable in the beginning. Embrace all the emotions you feel, moment by moment. Reflect on what is possible now.

Jean Shinoda Bolen’s words ring true for me: “When we are in a threshold time, what we decide to do determines what comes next.”

 

 

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Can We Talk?

Dear Pope Francis:

Can we talk?

               Even if the door is closed?

                                                     What is our best next step?

                                                                                           Let me suggest we open the door and begin a dialogue?

Delighted to hear you encourage us to not hold back…be messy… to acknowledge the Spirit at work, especially in those not “part of our group” or “like us”…

At your final event in the United States, in Philadelphia, during the homily, what I heard was:

“God wants all his children to take part in the feast of the Gospel. Jesus says, “Do not hold back anything that is good, instead help it to grow!” To raise doubts about the working of the Spirit, to give the impression that it cannot take place in those who are not “part of our group”, who are not “like us”, is a dangerous temptation. Not only does it block conversion to the faith; it is a perversion of faith!”             

                                                                                                       ~Pope Francis

Assuming you are open to dialogue, please have your people call my people…better yet, since I don’t have people,  have your people call or email me.

In Joy,
Kathleen

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Father Knows Best or Modern Family?

No longer content to watch reruns of Father Knows Best, we freely create community as Modern Family.

Father Knows Best? debuted on radio in 1949. In those days of audio entertainment, the title of the show ended with a question mark, suggesting that a father’s role as family leader and arbiter was dubious. In 1954, Father Knows Best moved to television, without the question mark, where it ran until 1963. Museum.tv describes the show as a sitcom “in which moms were moms, kids were kids, and fathers knew best.”

Need I remind anyone 1954 was sixty-one years ago? Even if we remember Father Knows Best, we’re no longer content to watch reruns. How many of us have a console TV like the one pictured above?

Modern Family debuted in 2009. The show revolves around an extended, multigenerational family with straight, gay, multicultural, and traditional characters. It’s funny! Let’s face it: our reality is different than it was sixty years ago…

Whether we watch TV or not, our experience has taught us that everyone has a voice and the right to use it.

The WOW Conference (aka Women’s Ordination Worldwide) is coming to Philadelphia September 18th to 20th! The theme is Gender, Gospel & Global Justice. WOW aims to demonstrate the interconnection between the exclusion of women in ministry and the global damage the Church does to the status and treatment of women and girls. Amazing speakers include Theresa Kane, Kate Kelly, Patricia Fresen, Tina Beattie, Maureen Fiedler, Elizabeth Schussler Fiorenza, Asra Nomani, and Shannen Dee Williams.

From where I stand, the World Meeting of Families and Pope Francis visiting Philadelphia pale in comparison.

 

Who Called the COP*?

Who Called the COP?

My nephew is a policeman. He is not the COP I’m asking about.

For purposes of this post, COP translates as Coach, Officiant, and Priest.

Three examples of ordinary people Who Called the COP:

  • Lori did. She’s in her fifties, lives in Virginia, and retired after a successful career in corporate sales and marketing. Since starting a consulting business, Lori partners with a coach to dive deep, integrate her natural strengths, and ensure each step moves her toward her vision.
  • Claire and Jake did. They are in their twenties, met while in university, and spent a year in Africa at a sustainable development project. They live in Manhattan. Were planning a wedding in Florida. Desired their marriage ceremony to integrate the traditions that shaped them (Quaker, Catholic, Jewish, Presbyterian) and reflect who they are as individuals and a couple. Turned out to be amazing!
  • Jessica did. She’s a reporter who covers Montgomery County for the Philadelphia Inquirer. Wanted a priest’s perspective on Pope Francis’ recent announcement about absolving women who confess to having abortions. Click here for the story. http://articles.philly.com/2015-09-04/news/66182796_1_pope-francis-forgiveness-catholics.

Consider calling With You in Joy next time you want to connect with a Coach, Officiant, or Priest.

 

 

 

What is the Difference Between Empty and Empathy?

What Is the Difference Between Empty and Empathy?

“A” and “H”

When combined, the letters create the word “Ah.”

Merrriam-Webster defines “Ah” as an interjection “used to express delight, relief, regret, or contempt.”

I associate the phrase “Ah” with awareness, spaciousness, freedom to breathe.

Let’s circle back to “Empty” and “Empathy.”

Wonder if there’s a cause and effect relationship between emptying and feeling empathy?

Ahhhh.

 

How Comfortable Are You With Being Still?

Comfortable Being Still?

If, like me, you are one of those people:

  • Whose mind operates quickly and intensely;
  • Who loves and is energized by people;
  • Who finds yourself easily distracted; and
  • Who seeks more balance in your life,

I invite you to reflect on the question, “How comfortable are you with being still?”

Imagine yourself lying on a sandy beach.

Palm trees shade you as you gaze at the Caribbean.

Time stands still.

As you listen, you hear a voice inside you haven’t heard in a long while.

What has to happen for you to hear that voice even after you leave the beach?

Half Empty? Half Full?

Half Empty? Half Full?

How do you look at the world?

Yesterday I was downloading video into i-Movie when the onscreen message said there’s not enough space left to store the file.

“Really?” I thought. I checked the capacity and discovered more than half the space on my hard drive was movie files. Yikes! I had less than 1 GB free.

“There must be a way to reorganize, clean up, and realize more space,” I reasoned.

…and then it struck me…my desire to “find more space” IS how I interact with the world.

Implicit is the underlying belief “I’m not good enough.”

“How can that be?” I wondered. “I’ve been wrestling the scarcity gremlin for years.”

“I’ve invested in my personal growth. I partner with a coach… and although most of the time I see the glass as half full, the rest of the time I’m looking to supersize the glass so it can hold more.”

These days I see the pattern everywhere. That’s one sign that it really is time to move out of my comfort zone and change habits, rather than just moving stuff around.

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How’s Your Vision?

What happened the last time you had your vision checked?

Were you staring at a chart with a large “E” followed by lines of letters of decreasing size?

The standard eye test, developed in the late 1800s, uses the Snellen chart, named for its inventor, the Dutch ophthalmologist Herman Snellen. It was designed to find out if a child was able to see what the teacher wrote on a blackboard. Sight occurs in the eyes alone and is what the Snellen chart measures.

What’s the difference between sight and visionVision is the interplay between the eyes and the brain.

We humans are born with sight, but vision is learned.

The pictures we see exist not in our eyes but in our brains, where we give meaning to the messages accessed through our eyes.

About 80 percent of the information that reaches us comes through our eyes. Each eye sends the brain a billion messages every waking second. The eyes send twice as many messages as all the other senses combined.

What we see shapes what we imagine and contributes to what we believe is possible.

Perhaps it is time to test your vision. Start by answering these questions:

  • What do you imagine yourself doing?
  • When you look back on today, from 2018, what do you see yourself having accomplished?
  • What’s your next step to make your vision your reality?
  • Who can help you keep your vision alive?

“Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart.

Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”          

~ Carl Jung

Check your sight. Create your vision!

 

Peek-A-Boo

Peek-A-Boo

It’s a game that engages and entertains babies and teaches them about their world.

Played all over the world, Peek-A-Boo bridges language and cultural barriers.

We play it as children.

We play it as adults…with children eight months and older.

One player hides his or her face, pops back into view of the other, and says, “Peek-A-Boo! I see you!”

It’s a natural impulse to smile with delight when a baby sees you and starts laughing with you.

At its roots, Peek-A-Boo honors a universal truth, that each of us yearns to be seen and recognized.

The process of “being coached” as a adult is a lot like playing Peek-A-Boo as a child.

It’s energizing, transformational, and deeply profound to be seen, heard and recognized.

…and just like with playing Peek-A-Boo, once you experience the joy, you want to repeat it again and again.

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Wholehearted Growth

Wholehearted Growth from Kathleen Gibbons Schuck on Vimeo.

“Guideposts” for Wholehearted Living*

Cultivating Authenticity:

Letting Go of What People Think

Cultivating Self-Compassion:

Letting Go of Perfectionism

Cultivating a Resilient Spirit:

Letting Go of Numbness and Powerlessness

Cultivating Gratitude and Joy:

Letting Go of Scarcity and Fear of the Dark

Cultivating Intuition and Trusting Faith:

Letting Go of the Need for Certainty

Cultivating Creativity:

Letting Go of Comparison

Cultivating Play and Rest:

Letting Go of Exhaustion as a Status Symbol and Productivity as Self-Worth

Cultivating Calm and Stillness:

Letting Go of Anxiety as a Lifestyle

Cultivating Meaningful Work:

Letting Go of Self-Doubt and “Supposed To”

Cultivating Laughter, Song, and Dance:

Letting Go of Being Cool and “Always in Control

 

*The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brené Brown, Ph.D., L.M.S.W.